Katy Abbott

Cutting Edge: Women’s hidden thoughts

The outpourings of over 200 women formed the basis of a song cycle or musical ‘blog’

“I hate it when people tell me I have a great attitude to life’s hardships. But the fact is, no one wants to hear the truth about how difficult everyday can be and how the constancy of illness is slowly grinding me down. It’s like they are congratulating me for breathing. I have to pretend to have hope and vibrancy, otherwise they can’t take it. They change the subject or minimise my experience when I complain. I feel a constant simmering rage that I am struggling to live with but how do I explain that and maintain my friendships?” (Anonymous woman, aged 55–75).

In 2015, when I surveyed women around the...